So sorry to hear how you have been treated, and your experiences growing up.

I do try and keep my explanations as simple as possible, but sometimes there's no way. When we use simplistic analogies, the Gender Criticals take that as license to mock us.

One of their most egregious misrepresentations is the "born in the wrong body" metaphor. We use that to simply the experience so that cis people can grasp what the feeling is like; GCs have taken this as some kind of attack on humanity itself.

Then they're forever calling gender identity a "feeling", or likening it to stereotypes or gender roles, which is simply not true. But even when you explain these things to them they prefer their versions because their easier to get angry at.

Meanwhile, the media takes the simple explanations from our side, pairs them with the mocking from the GCs and we end up in a worse situation.